Over 30 years of age please!!! sorry!!! How can people JUDGE?

my best friend (who was in her 20"s) for asking his family to help take care of the 'BRAIN DAMAGE husband..They said no because it would be too much of a BURDEN on them...Now what do you think it was for her LIVING IN THAT HELL...NO COMMUNICATION, NO HELP...HE WAS LIKE A CHILD...I HATE TO SAY IT...BUT mentally retarded..hummm..NOW WOULD YOU STAY..?HONESTLY NO!! IT IS A NON-marriage anymore..anyway, she could not do it alone...SHE HAD 2 LITTLE KIDS TO TRY AND RAISE AND BECOME THE MOTHER AND THE FATHER...hummmmm.NOW IF A CHURCH WILL ALLOW HER OUT OF A MARRIAGE DUE TO MENTAL INCAPASITATION, WHY ISN'T it ok to leave without JUDGEMENT??/I THOUGHT WE ARE NOT ALLOWED TO JUDGE THAT!!!??? HUMMMM....sHE did not CAUSE THE ACCIDENT....SO WHY ISN'T IT OK TO PUT HIM IN A CARE CENTER...I THINK IT IS FINE TO DO...THAT WHAT I THINK I WOULD DO...PEOPLE JUDGE HER HARSHLY...I FEEL THAT IS WRONG...what is your take on the issue...please...NO FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE...IT DOESN'T APPLY TO THIS HORRIFIC SITUA